Problems in relationships -- if you're in a relationship you have challenges from time to time! We all want to love and be loved in return, but it's not always easy to maintain loving communication.
You would think that we would start "Love Lessons" in nursery school and continue till the end of high school. But alas, it's not part of the curriculum. Most people don't think love is something they learn, because it just happens -- we fall in love. And when we fall in love it feels so natural, so real, so heaven sent. But soon after the relationship begins we experience problems -- and it feels like we've been kicked out of heaven.
It helps to remember that everyone has problems in relationships. We can all learn new skills that help improve communication and relationship effectiveness.
Many relationship problems are rooted in a communication break-down. These can be as simple as not really hearing what the other person is saying, because we get caught up in our own fixed perspectives.
Sometimes problems occur when we don't understand our partner's underlying need. Remember, it is this underlying need that is driving their current emotional upset. The secret is not to get caught up in arguing about a surface problem, when the real issue may be an unacknowledged big feeling or need underneath.
Some communication problems come from our own willfulness, where we become attached to our own point of view and fail to include the other person's perspective.
Other times fear of intimacy can prevent you or your partner from expressing your deeper needs. This is a common fear reaction based on past beliefs and past relationship patterns of not communicating. The skill is to learn to come from a present perspective and deal with what is happening in this moment rather than just reacting from the past.
Once we realize that we can all get better at loving, our love lives get better! If you are willing to add a few new skills to your "love-tool box" you can make a huge improvement in your connection to your partner.
You can find the relationship problem advice you need here. We offer some tips that have helped hundreds of couples live and love more fully together. Whatever your challenge is in your current relationship, there is a more loving solution!
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See this enlightening article on Communcation Problems.
See this great article on Avoiding Fights and Improving Understanding.
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