The Seven Guideposts
of Healthy Relationships

Healthy Relationships feel good for your body, mind and soul. You feel connected with your true self and your partner. In a good relationship you feel supported and encouraged to be true to yourself, and both of you are committed to helping each other do and be their best, together and in the world.

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There is no “cookie-cutter” one size fits all formula for great relationships. There can be so many variations, because love is as infinite as light. But there are some significant clues that you are in an unhealthy relationship, and the articles in this section will help you achieve clarity to know the difference, and to find the courage to do something about it. If you spend the majority of your time feeling compromised, confused, squished or squashed, hurt, angry or abused, these are critical warning signs. Enduring relationships have as their guiding beacon the desire to see each of you thrive and find deep, enduring happiness.

The Seven Guideposts of Healthy Relationships

You might find it useful to contemplate the seven guideposts of strong relationships. If one pillar is weak, identifying which one needs shoring up will help you develop it, thereby strengthening the entire structure. Making the right adjustment to your thoughts, words and behaviors, even if it is small adjustment, can truly strengthen your relationship and lead to lasting love!

The Seven Guideposts of Healthy Relationships

1. Willingness to find loving solutions. See all “problems” through the lens of love. Things look very different if you are coming from the viewpoint of love. 

2. Focus and Attention. Put your attention on your partner. Relationships need nurturing. Your partner needs to feel that you have your attention on their well being. 

3. Authentic Communication. Tell the truth about how you feel, and ask for what you need. Don’t assume that your partner can read your mind. This is a set up for disappointment. Read this article on improving communication, called Avoiding Fights.

4. Commitment and Integrity. Trust is built when there is a strong match between your thoughts, words and actions. If something you agreed on changes, let your partner know. 

5. Personal Responsibility. Happiness is an inside job. It is all about “me” when it comes to being responsible for your own feelings and experience. It’s not your partner’s job to “make” you happy. For more on taking responsibility, read this article on Emotional Wellness and Happiness.

6. Mutual Respect and Support of each other’s true expression. We need to be true to ourselves before we can be happy with anyone. If you feel compromised in expressing your true self, you may end up projecting your dissatisfaction on your partner. 

7. See the Divine in each other – trust your partner’s innate perfection. In happy relationships we enjoy our own pleasure and want our partner to enjoy theirs. We see life as good, and we want to expand on that goodness through coming together in partnership.

You might want to now read this article on Signs of a Healthy Relationship to learn 4 Clues You Need To Know

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