If He Won’t Say I Love You How to know he loves you
He won’t say I love you, but does he love me? When you don’t know, you really want to know! It would be so much easier if there was a measuring device, and we could pour his love into a cup and quantify just how much.
Of course you know there is no objective measure of love. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t clues to help you. The point is how to accurately read the clues.
How Much Does he Love Me? – Tip One: Remember that saying the words “I love you," is just one way a man can express his true feelings. Most women are frustrated he won’t say I love you as they really care about hearing those words, and hearing them often. But often men may love you but not be comfortable with those words.
We don’t want to hear the words “I love you" in a robotic, obligatory way that forcing a man to say them might sound. Obviously, different people have different needs to hear and say those words. An insecure person will want to hear them often. If you are asking your partner “Do you love me?" multiple times a day – it is time to do your own work on yourself.
This insecurity will tire your partner, and make him feel that if and when he actually says the words they have no value, because they don’t last in your experience.
If he does say the words, they should have a long shelf life in your heart! It is important when your partner does say the words that you show him that you appreciate them, either through returning the same words, or giving a sweet smile, a warm touch or any other method he prefers. This reinforces that the words have power and will bring reward to both of you. He will say them more often if you have a beautiful reaction and receive them like spring showers on flowers!
How Much does he Love me? – Tip Two: Everyone expresses
love differently. Some people are comfortable saying the words “I love
you." Others won’t say I love you but express their feelings of love
through actions, behavior, or affection. For some men, just being close
or cuddling is a stronger expression of their love than the three magic
words. There is a Russian proverb that says “When a man says he loves
you, watch his feet." The meaning of this is that words can lie, but
actions often reveal a person’s true feelings.
How Much Does he Love Me? – Tip Three: How
much he loves you is not accurately measured by his memory! Even if he
forgets things that are important to you -- such as household chores,
or to call you back, or even important dates like birthdays – this is
not a guaranteed sign that he doesn’t love you.
How much he
loves you is a complex cocktail of actions, words, physical affection,
the look in his eyes, the smile on his face. If he wants to spend time
with you – and if he is present and affectionate with you when he is
with you – not texting, watching TV, reading all the time – he probably
How Much Does he Love me? – Tip Four: If
he is kind and cares about your feelings, is protective and wants the
best for you – he loves you! If this is a new relationship and neither
of you have yet said the words “I Love You," be brave, and find a good
time, and you can be the one to to say them first!
safe, non-stressful moment and ask him how he feels. Ask him gently,
not as an inquisition. And accept whatever answer you get. Even if he
can’t articulate easily and he won’t say I love you back, watch his
body language. Is it soft and open, or tense and closed? Unless a
person is trained to lie, their body language will often reveal their
true feelings. If he gets up and leaves, this is not a good sign! If
he snuggles up to you, this is his way of saying he feels love toward
How Much Does he Love Me? – Tip Five: People do
fall in love or feel love in different rhythms and with varied pace.
You can’t expect your man to love you and express how much he loves you,
in the same way you would express it. It is fair to ask, once or
twice, but not to nag with continuous requests. Being insecure can eat
away at the quality of the connection between you two. If he feels
pressured to feel love and express love before he is ready, he may bolt,
rather than feel the guilt of not loving you back in the way or at the
speed you want.
knowing how much he loves you is partly an inside job. You have to
know deep inside that you are worthy of receiving love. You need to
give him the benefit of believing in his love, even if he won't say I
love you or doesn't say them often. Letting him express himself in his
own way is what builds love. Forcing him to speak the words if that
isn’t his style is a deal breaker.
Trust that he does love you – until his actions prove otherwise. That is the art of loving in a mature manner.